Thursday, April 21, 2011

How to end up with my perfect guy...

There is no such thing as the perfect guy, right??? WRONG!

This past Monday I told you about our Bar in School (Bar 6-) and this cute guy that walked in while I was doing my weekly shift of bartending…. Yes, on a weeknight...

Bastiaan, was his name.

I figured this was a good, solid name and I quickly checked his hands (pretty important for a farmer) and checked his teeth (pretty important for a farm girl). They were both fine so we started chatting.

He just came back from Australia where he spent 8 months working at a cotton farm a sheep farm and doing some backpacking. That sounded like music to my ears because I already had traveled 3 times to The States, once to Canada, several times to Sicily (all by myself!) so I was pretty content with the fact that I found somebody who traveled (by himself) too and wasn't afraid to see the world.


We talked a hole in the night. Of course I was too busy talking to notice the time and D finally told me, “Hey Leo, shouldn’t you close the bar?” Oh yeah, close the bar... Bastiaan helped us close the bar (which included cleaning the whole place, clean the toilets and the outside so the next morning “normal” students could go to school) without finding left overs from the previous night and we did this same thing the next night and the next…

Although I told him the second night, “You have to know, when I grow up, I’m gonna live in The States!”, that didn’t scare him off. He just laughed and asked if maybe I wanted to come to Australia instead.

“NO WAY!” … Yes, yes determined stubborn is something that some people would label me with…


On our 4th night he walked me back to my car. We also had dorms on the school property and the first year they recommend you staying in the dorms (to get adjusted to the life, as in, don’t drink and drive but just crawl home...) but because I was already in my third year I “upgraded” my bottom into a real student house (in the suburbs of the town). Bastiaan had his room in the dorm (after all he was brand spanking new), but I had to drive to my house every evening. 

While walking "home"/to my car from the Bar listening to a Belgium band, Lasgo with their hit song Something, Bastiaan kissed me! And yes this was one of our OPENING SONGS at our wedding (our THIRD wedding, but I’ll tell you all about that later) and yes he is about 1.5 years younger but he also knew how to take charge... hehe…

The music was great, the weather was great, the evening went really well and I was in the best company a girl could wish for. When I got home I woke up all my roommates and told them we had kissed! Of course they were very happy for me and asked me what my plan was next. I hadn’t been in a serious relationship for a while and I told them, "we would see where it would lead us". To D I said, “I don’t know, he is awfully young, maybe it will last 3 months and then something else will come along for him”…

This year we are together 10 years with LOTS of ups and downs; as in: break up’s, get together’s, emigration to a different part of the world, battling cancer, starting a large dairy together with MY mom, dad and brother, leaving his family for me, leaving his friends for me and try to find new friends, putting his dreams away on a shelf so i can chase my crazy American Dream, going true a truly awful time financially and mentally with our dairy so soon after we started up, learning to love cows while actually he is a crop farmer and no, crop farmers are not dairy farmers..., hoping that one day he can become a daddy, that is if my body and mind  is ready to have little ones... and oh, did I mention BATTLING cancer with me…?


I really KNOW i found my perfect match. He’s quiet, I’m blabbing all the time, he’s understanding, I’m wondering AND worrying about everything everywhere, he thinks things true, I’m a spur of the moment kindda girl, he’s perfect , I’m far from….


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44 comments:

TexWisGirl said...

and he's cute too!!! i think he's your superman! what a wonderful (almost) perfect guy... :)

It's me said...

Ohhhh how sweet!!!......lijkt wel een sprookje !! geniet nog maar heel lang van elkaar...en gelukkig natuurlijk !!! liefs van mij...fijne paasdagen !! ...xxx...

Clint said...

Heck, I'd marry the guy if I didn't already have Cindy! Ha.

Seriously---great story. Congrats on 10 great years!

bon bon said...

you make an adorable couple too! i hope you share many more happy years together!

Larkrise garden girl said...

He is a cutee! He's a keeper. Most people learn what a marriage is and what a good partner they have but when a young person has a spouse that rises to the occasion she is one lucky woman.Hugs Cheri

Cindy Ellison said...

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Patrice said...

I think you two were meant to be together!

Nancy said...

It's so magical when you meet the right one, but it also takes alot of communication, compromise and work if you truly want to be together.

It sounds like you two compliment each other well. :)

LindaG said...

Congratulations, Leontien. He is definitely the one for you. ♥

As someone born here, I would have gone to Australia, haha. ;)

Dawson Cattle Company said...

awesome! you should write a book about your jourey...i love true love stories and this one is great.

Jeanie said...

What a great story. Whether either one of you is perfect or not it sounds like you are perfect for each other. I raise a glass (well, I would if I had one handy) to many years of happiness together.

Yvonne said...

You two have been through many trying times, and the fact that you both are still together, says everything about your love for each other. Wonderful story to read. Happy 10 years...wishing you many, many more.

Angela said...

Sounds like he is a keeper!

Happy Easter!
Angela

Unknown said...

What a wonderful love story! (Pst! I'm 2 and a half years older that Steve. Hey when you wait as long as I did, you marry a younger one so they will last longer! ;-) ) Thanks so much for sharing this great love story.

Dawn said...

What a GREAT story:)))
I love this...you are very lucky- and he is too:)))

Kymberly Foster Seabolt said...

So sweet ♥.

I think we married the same guy - you got the light haired version and I got the dark one. :)

Hannah @ Off the Cuff said...

you guys are great! Miss you girl!

Chai Chai said...

Good for you, I wish the two of you long happy lives.

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

Well, you got me convinced. He's a keeper!

Katie said...

Beautiful tribute! Thanks for sharing. I love your perfect guy story. It's meant to be.
Happy Easter!
Katie

Dreaming said...

What's not to love?
What a great love story - thanks for sharing. It gives me goose-bumps! May you two realize every dream you have!

Miller Racing Family said...

What a fabulous love story. It is truly something you could make a movie out of. Hope you and your family have a great Easter!
Blessings!

MadSnapper said...

a wonderful wonderful story, you are blessed to have him. my hubby is quiet and has to listen to me blah blah blah. so i can relate to that part. so happy you are having your American dream and that your battle is turning out well for you.

Donna said...

You knew it when you saw it....what a great story!! He's cute too!!
Reading brought a tear to my eyes....and I didn't want to quit. What's the rest of the story??

Happy Easter!!

Susan said...

What a SWEET post!!!!

Happy Easter. Found you on the bloghop...my first. Sigh.

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Anonymous said...

VERY sweet!!
Have a GREAT Easter!!

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Samantha said...

He sounds like your perfect guy...love the blog! :)

Abby@AllAround said...

What a sweet post! He sounds like a great guy, you sound pretty great yourself!

Teresa said...

What a wonderfully sweet romantic post.

Lauren said...

Great story! Marriage is tough stuff and it sounds like you worked out the roughest of it. I admire your love and commitment.

You both seem pretty amazing!

P.S. I always wanted a black stallion too {from your "about me"}...

Caron said...

That is a sweet beginning.

Alica said...

You guys have certainly been through a lot together...congratulations on ten years!!

Sarah Rachele said...

That is too sweet! What a cute couple you two make.;) And you stopped by my blog yesterday and had some very kind words and I really appreciate that. Have a great weekend.:)

Mom on a mission said...

Congrats! It is an amazing feeling when you findly find the "one" <3 I will be married to my #1 man for 15 years in July....I <3 him more and more each day!
Best wishes:0)

Anonymous said...

awwwwww! That's so sweet! :)

Sultan said...

Nice post.

floweringmama said...

This love story would make a great book!

LBB said...

Such a great story & so very sweet :)

Laura said...

Thanks for the follow. Following you back!

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Stacy Uncorked said...

Awwwww! What an awesome story! He totally sounds like a keeper! :) Congrats on 10 years - here's to many more 10 years! ;)

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Hi ~ new follower from the Magnificant Monday Hop

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(Single)Mommy said...

What a cute story you are such an inspiration! Thanks for following me @My Adventures in Mommyland I hope you come back to visit often. I can't wait to read more of your posts soon...but right now my pillow is calling for me zzzz LOL